First Time Dad: The Stuff You Really Need to Know
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Perhaps the most powerful influence in the world is that of a dad on his child. Baseball gloves, dirty diapers, tiny little hands, first days of school, daddy-daughter dances, and learner's permits... and so much more! There's no way you can be ready for it all, but this is when you need to get a bit of a head start...
First Time Dad by Focus on the Family ministry veteran (and father of 6) John Fuller lets you in on the stuff you really need to know... because in just a few months or weeks or days, your life is going to change--forever. Set good priorities. Break bad habits and/or family patterns. Recognize and recover from some common fathering mistakes. Know that your words have immense power. And learn how to cultivate a lasting parent-child relationship. So, instead of wondering "oh man, oh man, oh man... what am I going to do now?" for 9 months... read this short book (plus it's pretty fun too) and get excited!
"Dad, your job is critical... And you can do it."
he struggle with substance abuse or was he unfaithful to your mother? Did he abuse you or another family member? Would you say he was a good example?5 These questions probe your childhood so you can recognize how your dad has influenced you. His time with you (or lack of time) and the way he treated you made an impression. Regardless of the specifics of your circumstances, you are a product of your father’s parenting. What did you feel when you read these questions? Was it uncomfortable to go
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generations. After helping your child grab on to your faith, perhaps the next most important job is to give him a biblical perspective on life. Pass Along a Biblical Perspective If you see life through a lens of faith, you’ll have a certain understanding of pain and suffering, of joy, work, community, finances, and morals. Those with a different worldview may be motivated to live in ways that conflict with your beliefs. Despite your influence in your son’s life, as he ages, his ear for your