Have Him at Hello: Confessions from 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love . . . Or Never Call Back
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There’s a reason the media has dubbed matchmaker Rachel Greenwald as “The Wife Maker.” Yes, she’s responsible for over 750 marriages, but more importantly, she has solved perhaps the biggest dating mystery of all time: when you finally meet Mr. Right (or even Mr. Potential), what really compels him to call back (or not) after a date?
Armed with her Harvard MBA, Rachel embarked on a fascinating ten-year research project to decipher this puzzle. In Have Him at Hello, she applies her business savvy to the dating world by conducting in-depth “exit interviews” with 1,000 single men, asking why they called back one woman, but not another. By refusing to accept the post-date brush-off like “There wasn’t any chemistry…” or the excited, but equally vague evening recap, “We hit it off!” Rachel extracted unabashedly honest and raw details. It turns out there are clear, tangible, consistent reasons why marriage-minded men either fall for you or disappear. The surprising “Top 5 Date Makers” and “Top 10 Date Breakers” revealed in this book can actually change your fate when Mr. Right finally comes along.
Rachel’s goal isn’t for you to pretend to be someone you’re not, but rather to keep the ball in your court. By using her innovative research and tips as a guide, more men will ask to see you again ; then you can do the selecting, rather than wondering if they’ll call. Because information is power, this book will make your first hello a lasting one.
away from your date—he looks boring—meet me outside?” Flirtatious messages were rapidly exchanged and he finally returned to the table. He said, “I was digging this girl.” But then Hayden said she started to get really insecure. Soon she began asking questions that he interpreted as, “She wanted reassurance that I felt the same exhilaration she was feeling.” For example, first she asked him if he was having a good time and later asked whether he was dating anyone else. During dessert she asked
he meets a lot of women online and dates them year-round—except during his dating off-season, which runs from Thanksgiving through Valentine’s Day. He explained his schedule is similar to that of athletes who use the off-season to rest, recuperate, and focus on other goals. He said that most women during the holidays tend to get needy in terms of wanting both gifts (Christmas, Valentine’s Day) and his time (come to this holiday party, meet my family, go out with me on New Year’s Eve). So November
on one thing. Rather, an accumulation of “clues” along a similar theme resulted in an unflattering stereotype. In other words, if you asked questions during dinner about his gene pool, and then lamented how all your friends are married, and then murmured terms of endearment like “baby” and “sweetie,” and then you petted the dog effusively, he probably concluded you’re The Closer. It wasn’t just about the dog petting. The key to handling this situation on your next date depends on which
me about a situation he still feels guilty about to this day. He went out with a woman who disclosed on their first date that she was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s disease at age sixteen. She told him she was fully recovered now and a stronger person for having beat cancer. Greg said to me, “What an impressive thing to beat cancer—I mean, she [seemed like] a brave person … I really liked her: she was funny, cute, mature … But when I got home I looked up Hodgkin’s on the Internet. I learned that
compassionate side 5. Taking your moods out on him #8 DATE-BREAKER The Debbie Downer She was not exactly Little Miss Sunshine.—Baker, age 25, Austin, TX She complained about everything. I felt like I was visiting my ninety-year-old grandma in Florida: “It’s too cold in here, the soup needs salt, could they make these chairs any less comfortable?”—Harry, age 40, Providence, RI I love it when a woman is delighted by something. People are so jaded these days.—Alberto, age 29, Los Angeles, CA