I Only Want to Get Married Once: The 10 Essential Questions for Getting It Right the First Time
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There is no rule that says heartbreak must be a prerequisite for good judgment. If you don't want to be a divorce statistic and are ready for a long-lasting relationship, this book's for you. In today's divorce culture, too many people have stopped trusting their ability to build a loving and lasting marriage. Now renowned relationship coach and counselor Chana Levitan reveals the 10 essential questions everyone should ask before saying "I do." Readers will learn how to: spot long-term potential; know the difference between infatuation and love-how they work against each other and yet how they can work together; reevaluate their approach to love and what they really need to succeed in building a loving marriage; gain the confidence to steer through the decision making process of dating; and more. Filled with real-life anecdotes and insightful advice, I ONLY WANT TO GET MARRIED ONCE helps readers get it right the first time.
breaking off a relationship. She explained: Someone introduced me to Mark. I knew right away that there wasn’t a future for us, although we always spoke about marriage. I never respected him, and I could never see him as part of my life. Nonetheless, it was hard for me to break away. Mark was so charismatic and exciting, I was afraid that I would be bored with a healthy, normal guy. We dated for a while and enjoyed each other’s company, but I knew that he wasn’t good for me. I finally got up the
balance in your life. A positive relationship should enhance your life. If you’re excited about someone you recently met, you might have a harder time concentrating on your studies or perhaps be a bit less ambitious at work. But the change should not be a drastic one. And certainly not a negative or destructive one. When I was in college, I had a classmate who was very bright and had fantastic leadership qualities. She was majoring in psychology and it was clear that she had a successful future
women I teach are always amazed at how effective this one exercise is in creating a happier marriage. As one of the women said, “My marriage is really good. I didn’t feel a strong need for improvement, but I tried the exercise anyway. I can’t believe how powerful it is. My already good marriage became great.” * * * Why is giving so powerful? When we give, we connect to the highest part of ourselves; we connect to our intrinsic goodness. It’s then that we remember that that’s who we really
goes to Channa Flam for her incredible insights and ideas and for being such a valuable role model for so many young women; to Dr. Judith Mishell, for graciously adding her professional insights; to my esteemed colleague Yosef Lynn and his wife Regine, for their invaluable observations and tips; and to Gary Torgow, for diving in to assist with his usual efficient, caring, and professional touch. To all of the colleges, organizations, schools, and programs that have given me so many wonderful
your top five. These are your essential values.) Loyalty Integrity/honesty Hard work and discipline Being knowledgeable Family/family values Treating one’s parents with respect Commitment to one’s spouse and/or children Religious commitment Communication Following through (doing what you say) Care and/or adoption of orphans Accountability Sincerity Gratitude Community service Personal growth Peace Visiting the sick Efficiency Success Frugality Privacy Justice Compassion