Parenting Your Parents: Straight Talk About Aging in the Family
Bart J. Mindszenthy
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This latest, enhanced and updated edition will help guide the thinking of those challenged with aging in the family.
Since the last edition in 2006, much has happened in the field of eldercare. There is now an increasing awareness of the complex challenges posed by the expanding aging population in North America. When our parents reach a certain age and have difficulty coping, we find ourselves wondering how to provide them with the kind of love, care, support, and attention they need, just as they have done for us all our lives.
The third edition of Parenting Your Parents shows, through 24 case studies and the personal experiences of the authors, that you are not alone and offers crucial advice to help you along this difficult but rewarding journey. It also offers a new Vulnerability Index to measure what level of need your parents may have right now, as well as a financial planning section and resource directory.
expectations. Many older women recall their childhood experiences when they were directed to choose a career path or personal direction based on assumptions of what was right for a girl. Of course, nowadays that is less common, and most mature women feel they have the right and personal obligation to fulfill their own interests and aspirations. We may forget, however, that our parents may feel the same way, even though they have never had the chance to act that way in the past. An important key
of steady deterioration. They have talked with their mother about the future, urging her to consider allowing him to pass on if there are any further complications. Miriam was very upset about her children’s suggestion and turned to her rabbi for advice. Rabbi Rubinfeld was very clear and firm in his counsel to her: the sanctity of life is more important than any other factor, he told her. He said that was true in Judaism and every other religion, and that no matter what, every effort must
and if Gilles begins to not trust his daughters’ dedication to him, it will be very hard to resolve this complex situation. If Gilles agrees to visit his physician, and if Claudia agrees with and supports the goal of decreasing Gilles’s alcohol consumption, Claudia should accompany the daughters on the visit. Then, together, they can express their love and devotion to Gilles and their desire to help him. The physician can be extremely helpful in how he approaches Gilles’s drinking problem. It
wanted to be maintained in her current state: semi-comatose, being fed through a feeding tube, not recognizing her family in any meaningful way, and not being able to express the dignified aspect of her person, which they both emphasized. When the son showed us a picture of her during her active days as a volunteer at the hospital where we both worked, I realized that I actually knew her in that role and agreed that she was a very vivacious person and very proud of the way she dressed and looked.
the transfusion came directly from him to me — the way all transfusions were done in 1941. The scar at the elbow crease of my left arm from that transfusion has often been the subject of conversation when I donated blood. We found a document required by Max for work that listed all the personal details of immediate relatives, including dates of birth and city and country of origin. It was a wonderful record of our family history, confirming our Jewish Lithuanian heritage and showing that our